Thế Nào Là 1 Mistress Đúng Nghĩa – Bà Chủ BDSM VN

Bà Chủ BDSM Việt Nam

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Nhiều nô lệ BDSM hỏi tôi “Bạn có phải Mistress không?” Tôi tự hỏi sao tôi lại nhận được nhiều câu hỏi như vậy khi tên trên FB tôi là Princess. Rồi 1 ngày tôi chợt nhận ra, ngày nay ở HCM có khá nhiều dịch vụ Femdom hoặc ‘giả’ Femdom, khiến nhiều người có cái nhìn sai lệch về BDSM. Một người chỉ cần cầm roi đánh vài ba cái, tát vào mặt mấy cái là đã trở thành Bà Chủ BDSM rồi ư? Cuộc sống sao dễ dàng thế! Nói vậy những Mistress như tôi và các bạn khác đâu cần phải bỏ nhiều thời gian ra luyện tập, học hỏi và phấn đấu mỗi ngày để không ‘dặm chân tại chỗ’?

Ngày nay các dịch vụ massage, dịch vụ cho đàn ông mọc lên như nấm, nhiều vô số kể. So với mười mấy năm trước khi tôi bắt đầu trờ thành một Bà Chủ, cộng đồng BDSM Việt Nam phát triển hơn nhiều, về cả số lượng lẫn chất lượng. Thế nên bạn đã bao giờ tự hỏi “Một Bà Chủ chân chính là như thế nào?”. Dù có đánh và tra tấn người khác thì phải đánh như thế nào cho đúng? Đâu phải cầm gậy, cầm roi đánh đại vài cái là được, chẳng thèm quan tâm đến sức khỏe và an toàn của người nhận? Đấy không phải là Bà Chủ, mà chỉ là người chơi BDSM. Xin đừng nhầm lẫn! Một Dominatrix đúng nghĩa cần có những đặc điểm sau đây:

  • Tự tin và có kiến thức tốt về những việc mình làm
  • Cư xử đúng mực và tin vào giá trị của mình
  • Luôn đật an toàn và sức khỏe nô lệ mình lên trên hết: nếu ai đó bảo họ là Bà Chủ có quyền làm gì làm, không cần quan tâm bạn, điều đấy không hợp lý. Bà Chủ phải yêu thương và quan tâm đến nô lệ thì nô lệ mới toàn tâm toàn ý phục vụ Bà Chủ
  • Tạo cảm giác an toàn và tin cậy cho nô lệ
  • Huấn luyện, chịu trách nhiệm về cách cư xử và hành vi của nô lệ: như người Việt hay nói “con hư tại mẹ”
  • Bất kỳ cuộc chơi nào đều là cá nhân giữa hai người, đảm bảo cả hai bên đều thoải mái, vui vẻ, nhưng điều quan trọng nhất nên nhớ ‘Bạn vẫn là Người Lãnh Đạo’
  • Dù bạn là Người Lãnh Đạo nhưng vẫn phải tôn trọng quyền riêng tư của nô lệ mình
  • Nếu bạn thật sự thích BDSM thì hãy dành thời gian tìm hiểu để có kiến thức rộng hơn, tránh những sai lầm đáng tiếc

Sau khi đọc bài viết này tôi hi vọng bạn có thể nhận ra mình thật sự là Mistress hay không!

VN Goddess

Common Questions to Me – Viet Nam Princess

Viet Nam Princess

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Hi subs, thanks for serving and supporting Me on what I have been doing. I really appreciate it all. For those who have not met me yet or like to learn more about Me, here is a list of common questions I usually get for sessions and more. Pls simply contact me if you do not see what is on your mind in this post.  


1) What is Ur vanilla job?

A singer and I play guitar, I can not have long finger nails with polish if it is ur fetish

 

2) How should i address U?

Miss, in both public and private.

 

3) How do U look in real?

My body is like in my photos. For my face, most of people said I look young and cute, some said pretty and attractive. Guess u need to check out urself . 

 

4) What are Ur favorite colors?

Black, red, white and blue.

 

5) What are Ur hobbies?

Singing, listening and playing music, dancing, travel, movies, swimming, sports, playing pool,
domination, reading and more. 

 

6) What is Ur marital status?

Single.

 

7) What is Ur sexuality?

A bi Domme.

 

8) What is Ur domination style?

Depends on how I feel at that time. I like teasing, romantic and sensual domination but also enjoy torturing and using someone.

 

9) How do U see Urself as personalities?

Confident, open minded, sweet, kind, easy going and playful but I am extremely impatient and easily get bored. I am fun to be with. I am normally humble but could be quite arrogant to strangers especially boys.

 

10) What was the people’s impression when they first saw U?

Shocked lol I am joking. Actually some people said I didn’t look like a Dom and the reason of why they said so is bs I have a very sweet look. Most of Dommes seem to have a lot of make-ups on Their eyes which made Them look strong and fierce. I normally do not have it. I am a Leo, a natural born leader. It is all in heart isn’t it. I like to be sweet and nice with some manipulation. Devil is inside .

 

11) What are Ur fav fantasies?

I am a sadist and a rapist. I like strapon, humiliation, group domination, dog training, massage, sissyfication, fin-dom, edging, foot/shoes worship, leather, chastity etc.

 

12) What are Ur limits?

Blood, scat and needles.

 

13) How do U like to be treated?

As a Goddess with high respect and devotion.

 

14) What do the subs like from U?

Maybe my relaxing and enjoyable laughs during my sessions…not very sure. You need to find it out then.

 

15) What is Ur ideal sub?

Someone with a pure sub heart and honesty. It doesn’t matter much physically unless he is over sized . Someone who treats me like a Queen with no ego and jealousy. If u expect Me to do whatever u want, pls do not contact Me, no matter how much money u have. I will like it if u support Me on what I do and I will do the same to u in return. Supporting Me is supporting urself . Especially I quite like good surprises, either small or big. I like to be spoiled. Someone who likes to make me a very happy woman and try his best to serve Me.  

 

16) Can U love a sub and take care of him?

I can, I have a lot of love to share. As a Dom, I like to take care of my sub, see him happy and comfortable around Me. I like to give and receive unconditional love with no calculation and comparison. Every Dom is different and I would not say I am the best. There is always a better one. The thing is I know what I want for My life.

 

17) Would U see Urself settling down with someone?

I would for the right person who must be a sub bs I am no more interested in vanilla men.

 

18) What is an ideal relationship to U?

Trusted, loving, caring, understanding, mutual respect especially no secrets from each other. I would not expect a monogamy from u. Understand that one person can worship many Goddesses (I mean having sessions with other Doms) but should have the main Goddess that u devote to. If u become close with the others or treat them better than Me (giving them gifts, money other than sessions) then it is another thing. U MUST have my permission to see other Doms. I’d rather be in an open relationship than to do things behind each other’s back. U can always be open to Me. If 2 parties have secrets from each other, there is something wrong.

 

19) What is Ur weakness?

I have a lot . I am very impatient especially to beginners. I could be very aggressive, cold n cruel (as a part of my Leo sign) when someone saddens or annoys me. Afraid of dark, height and thunder. I tend to easily give up when it comes to emotional challenges. I could be very demanding and I like expensive things since I see Myself as a Goddess :). 

 

20) What do U dislike from subs?

Ego. Some of u could be quite egoistical and usually take granted of Me while Me being nice and close to u. In that case u would not have another chance with Me. I do not like playboys, fuckboys with or without serious situations. I have seen some people throwing money away to use women as they want. I respect and love women too much to see that. It hurts. I would not mind u throwing money into my pocket lol.

 

21) What is difference between a sub and a slave?

It is about devotion. A sub means u have a choice of who to serve but a slave does not. A sub can have many Doms but a slave can not or u need permission from your Doms. Moreover, being a slave means your owned by Her.

 

22) How do U feel while having sessions with married men or men who are in loving relationship?

Many of those who have come to me are married or in relationships. Most of them have pretty good loving relationship but in a corner of their world they still miss their fantasies being fulfilled and it might not be easy to tell their partners or it is unacceptable. Also, there are many of them who have lost their interests in vanilla sexual life. If having sessions with Me makes them feel better about themselves and their vanilla relationships, I will be more than happy to help. It is mutual support.

 

23) Have U had many contacts who are fakers?

Yes, sometimes. Some people contacted Me just for a chit chat which excited them and they would wank over it. Some came and said stupid things like I was a money digger, an escort blah blah or tried to put me down. I do not feel bad but feel sorry for those losers who are useless in their life. Those who have met me or had sessions with Me already knew that I do not offer escort services (blow job, hand job, sex, clothes off in sessions etc). Whatever u think of me as a pro Domme, it does not matter. I know who I am which is enough. You either like me or hate me and u can only fool me once.

 

24) What is difference between a vanilla and a D/s relationship?

In my opinions, they are not much different. In both of them, people love and take care of each other. It is power exchange. The more the subs surrender, the powerful the Doms become. The subs love, care and make their Doms happy, the Doms love, care and make sure their subs enjoy being and serving them. In fact if 2 persons are in the same fantasy life, it will be easier to understand and open to each other, from there the love grows stronger and deeper. It could be very beautiful and enjoyable if 2 parties maintain it reasonably.

 

25) How would You like Ur D/s relationship to be?

Well, being a Dom deosn’t mean I control the person completely. There is nothing 100%. It is quite different between a lifestyle and a single session. In the sessions, I can be tough, be extreme bs it does only last a few hours, then people have a rest from each other. In the lifestyle, won’t be like that in daily activities or else it would tire people out. I do like to care for my partner with some little cooking, kisses or hugs sometimes, love to listen to him and support him whenever he needs Me. When we go out together, I love to choose clothes which he will be wearing (no worries, I have a good fashion taste), decide on places that we will have dinner or where to go. If I run out of ideas, he can suggest and I consider. I like to show my affection and emotion. We might argue sometimes so he should be the one who calms me down and saves the conversation with a little hug for example bs I am quite hot tempered. It would just be an explosion if the person keeps fighting with me. Most of my time I travel alone, I do everything on my own, it is very nice to have someone who organizes things for Me and surprises Me. It makes me feel like a Queen. I might not have nothing to reward him but my love.

 

26) Have U dominated female subs?

Yes I have. I am bisexual.

 

27) Have U done group domination?

Yes I have many times. I enjoy them.

 

28) What was the craziest thing that U have done?

Leasing a sub out for escort service to earn money for Me. I guess I am a weird creature lol.

 

29) What turns U on the most?

Obedience…when the person says yes to what I ask for or let Me do it My way. I love to push one’s limits especially I like to take virginity lol.

 

30) Would U see Urself falling for someone like Me?

Haha…how freaky are u?

 

31) If U met a super nice man who would support U mentally and financially, would U stop being a pro Domme?

I would consider…

 

32) Would U re-locate for the right person?

Perhaps…

 

33) Are U a jealous type of person?

Maybe a little if I really like the person. But I always encourage him to be what he is and hope he will do that to Me in return.

 

34) What would U do if U found that the person cheated on U or did things behind Ur back?

Leave him alone. There is no point to be jealous or to argue if he likes someone better than Me.

 

Right, should be enough now. If u think I am ur type of Dom, do not hesitate to contact Me and if u like me, like me for what I am. If u do something for Me, make sure it is bs u feel like doing them. Please do not do anything and then complain that I am too demanding. I would never force anyone to do anything. Cheers!

From VNG

 

 

 

 

Me as a Leo – Women Supremacy

Women Supremacy

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When the Leo star was shining the brightest in the sky, I was born in a female led family. When I was a kid, I was trained by my grandma who was a sadist dominant woman. She had raised me with good manners and disciplines. I got punished for my bads. Her secret weapon was the cane but believe me she had many more types of torture. I guess she trained me well because every time I saw the cane, I got chilled n not even dare to make any mistakes. And so I grew up with it as a little sadist myself. 

For vanilla, I got artistic genes from my parents which I am always hugely thanksful. You might be wondering why ’cause there are so many artistic people in the world. I never consider myself as special or smart because of it but see myself as an art. My artistic side has helped me a lot seeing both worlds ( vanilla and lifestyle) in different colors apart from black and white. I myself have many fears such as water, darkness, caning, needles, ropes etc but the artistic side had grown me up with a leo heart in a tiny physical body. I made myself explore the world while many people were still sleeping around me because of what was called tradition. If you ask what the biggest goal of my life is, I will say it is to win over myself day by day.

Recently I got to see caning and needles sessions which are in my limits. I enjoyed watching and learning from people. I realized they were not that scary as I thought. It is like a photograph. If you take it in different angles, the image will be different. Also it depends on people who see it, the picture can be different too. So I learnt to see my fears in another way as pieces of art which I love to get beyond and fill them with joys and beauty. Then the fears are not that fearful. I used to be so scared of water for many many years due to the accident of mostly being drawn in my childhood. I did set it as one of my lifetime goals. I took many swimming courses but could never swim. Every time I was in water, it reminded me of the bad memory. And in one nice sky day, my Leo side couraged me to overcome it. I went to a swimming pool, put myself in water n relaxed. I didnt try to swim but to feel the water n learnt to love and play with it. I had been done that for 2 weeks. The time came. When I most felt comfortable with the water, I laid myself in it and started moving my arms and legs. Right at the moment, my fear of water became love n passion. It was very beautiful feeling that I could never forget in my life. I now can swim. It happened the same to the sounding which was an art to make, not to be afraid of. 

I love to wake up everyday seeing myself to be improved and more completed. It is great that once you can get over one fear, the others seem to be easier and more enjoyable. Life is a beautiful piece of art to fulfill colorfully and fears are what are burying you with black and white. If you are not ready to make your own colors yet, try to mix black and white first, don’t just sit and say ‘ I have fears’ because time is not waiting for anyone. 

From Miss

Motivation – A Hearty Domme

A Hearty Domme

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Went to a massage place where all massage people were blinded. It was my first time. After relaxing my feet in herbal water, the first impression was a group of happy people who have never got to see the life with their eyes. I was pretty amazed they could be that positive. One of the woman took me to a small single room. I removed my clothes. It was also the first time that I was naked in front of a stranger in both literal and deep meanings. I didn’t talk during the session. The only way she could connect with me is through touching. She was quite sensitive enough to feel vulnerable parts of my body which even my blood parents never noticed. Then she worked more on them for a treatment. When she massage my head, she was imagining how I looked with her touching. Right at the moment it touched my heart. She was definitely attractive beyond her look. I really felt that she enjoyed taking care of me and making me feel better. She didn’t make me feel sorry for her but admire her. Life was suddenly so beautiful. After the massage, my body felt much lighter and more relaxing. Thanks Goddess for bringing me there. I will come back for sure to support them as I was meant to.

From the VN Mistress

A glance of heart – An Asian Domme

An Asian Domme

An Asian Domme

I found myself shopping again which is usually my choice while being moody. My mind was full of thoughts. I was walking physically with my soul floating above.Who am I? Where am I from? Why am I on Earth? How many people do talk to their hearts? They usually let their rational mind hurt themselves and bother others for their egoistic purposes. They don’t have a single right to do so. And lack of responsibilities they go on ahead living in their shadows. They would never find a ‘home’ where they truly feel the happiness. I miss my home sometimes where I could live with no boundary, no jealousy and no burdens. If there were such human form aliens, I would be one.

My performance came. The moment I stepped on the stage, all my thoughts were immediately gone. Only my songs and I were there. I raised my voice. Music connects people. I was sending my heart to audiences. Felt a few drops of tears going down to my cheeks. There was a fight between my heart and my mind. Hearty wanted to cry but mindy wanted to sing. “All I want to do is find a way back into love”. I knew from my heart I would not be able to both cry and keep up with my voice. By instinct my left hand was cuddling my shoulder and my mouth was speaking the song’s lyrics instead of singing them. I let myself tearful. When it felt enough, I came back to my singing without missing any melodies. It was the most beautiful cooperation of the heart and mind. They made a great team. I wish I could hide in a corner and cry like a baby but life is still going on.

From the Asian Dominatrix

How to impress Me – Guide to A Slave’s Behaviors

Guide to A Slave’s Behaviors

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I sometimes have got questions like How someone would make Me happy or How they can please Me. To let you know guys I do appreciate it a lot that you care about Me and How I feel. If you ever read my previous posts, you will notice that I am a dominant by blood or at least I know that I am (smile). So it makes Me happy just to meet a like-minded person, I meant a sub by nature. It is the most attracted thing to see someone who is devoted naturally and unconditionally. You might think now that if there are such people. Tell you what, being a pro Dom, I have been very lucky to meet those who I find so so so beautiful. I am not talking about their looks but their hearts. I don’t find anything more attracted than a pure submissive heart. And now the question is what makes Me happy. Every Dom has different demands and expectation. To be honest, I am not that good technically to compare with other Dommes. They are surely much much better than Me. All I can give you is my heart, my feeling and my connection to you. Once again, I love to be treated as a Princess. I love to be kissed on my hands and my feet. If you look into my eyes and kiss my hand, I’m sure that you will touch my heart and one step closer to Me. About my demands, do I have any? Yes, for my Queeny side I enjoy very much being given things. I don’t mean expensive or luxurious stuffs, even for little things like a small cake for example, I still feel happy enough. Of course I can buy myself those things so why? The answer is because I am Queeny (laugh). 

There are many advice that I should make myself more popular by posting more of adverts and more photos on my site. The thing is Do I need to be popular? I don’t, even though I know that it might bring more money to Me but I never feel like being too commercial. It is what I feel for myself. I am not judging anyone here. What you might not know is I have made this site on my own and what I have posted on here is what I feel like sharing to ‘this world’. I know that it is very simple site and not fascinating at all but it is all I can do (smile). It is obvious that adverts are necessary in this modern world. I do post adverts of course to reach out people. If someone are meant to see Me then they will. Money is needed for life which I never deny. I used to tell someone that I am glad just to earn enough during my trips and I am hugely thankful to those who have supported Me. I will never forget that. 

Some people may find Me arrogant because I reject taking sessions sometimes. If I accidentally offend you, I really apologize. The thing is I would not do what I don’t like or I can’t enjoy (for example scat session) no matter how much money you give Me. Besides, if I don’t feel respectful or you are too much egoistic as a sub, I have to say sorry that I won’t see you because I know for sure that it won’t be enjoyable for both of us. Some people think that they can get whatever they want since they pay for the sessions. They are not submissive by heart obviously. Those mannered people would not be able to get along with Me. I am not saying they are no good, just that our thinking are so different so why see each other? Money is important but there is something that is more important to Me. If I don’t follow my heart, believe Me I will be a loser. Life is miracle this way. So yeah if you are looking for a very professional skillful Dom, it’s probably not Me. All I have is a lot of love to share and I ensure you that I always enjoy whatever I do to you.

Another thing is someone said that I didn’t look like a Dom. I found it quite funny and entertained to hear. Wondering How a Dom should look. Do I have to look like a Dom to be a Dom? So then I contacted that person and asked for the answer. From his thinking and from what he has seen, Dommes have quite heavy make-up especially on their eyes which make them look more masculine and powerful. Is this right? If you guys can answer this better, please message Me. I guess it depends on what people are looking for. I never feel that I need a heavy make-up which I consider bad way to my skin. I might have an angel look with an evil heart? There is no doubt that I can add more make-over to myself but then How am I gonna add make-up to my heart? Perhaps I have to go to a spa for that (laugh). 

From VN Goddess

Am I a Pro Dom? – BDSM Session Viet Nam

BDSM Session Viet Nam

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Yes and no.

Yes because I do charge for my sessions. I know there are quite a lot of doubts and questions around it, something like if I am a Domme for money and that it is my job. Tell you what, I have heard a lot. This post is to clear it out if any of you have ever wondered about Me.

Firstly, I have devoted Myself to the lifestyle. There is undoubting truth that I was born to be a Dominant. Whatever you call Me or think of Me, I am still what I am. I have lived this part of mine to the fullest and I never pretend to be something. Apart of being a Mistress, I am a person just like yourself. I still have to live as well. Doing sessions is one of my livings. I am taking care of myself. So do not judge Me if you don’t even know about Me.

Secondly, those who come to Me usually have their own lives. SM is a piece of their whole life that I name “another world”. Apart from their vanilla lives, they still have a desire of fulfilling their fantasies without hurting their vanilla. I am here for that. There are no strings, no attachment and I do always make sure both you and Me have fun. 

Thirdly, even tho I charge for it, I prefer calling ‘tribute’ than pay. It could be money, gifts, toys, things that I need and so on. Please don’t think that you pay to have fun with Me but to support Me and my dungeon since it is one of very few one in Ho Chi Minh. Pls note that my session is not about sex and I am not  a bar girl. If you can not respect Me for what I am, please do not contact Me.

The last thing is I know that many people would rather have a D/s relation than to tribute for a short session. I understand. But a relation is just not as what you think, it is a lot more behind the meanings. In a relationship, there are more responsibilities, you have to take a good care of Me make sure that I am always happy. Yes for that, do you think you are ready? So think twice before you wish for something.

Am I a pro Dom? Does it really matter now as long as I do sessions with all my heart? I don’t take your money for nothing, I do care about my partners during the sessions, to ensure that you enjoy it with Me. I spend my precious time with you so I expect to get something that would support Me and my life, otherwise who is gonna take care of Me? I never push anyone to pay if you are not willing to. So pls remember that life has chosen me this way, what I am doing is to support both sides, not just for money. 

Cheers.

From VN Goddess